It seems like many conversations include dialog about the weather.  Too hot, too cold, too wet, too dry, too windy, too still or just right.  There’s not much else to discuss. So why do we discuss it?

Because it is something we all experience.  No matter who you are talking to, they know and you know that you both have experienced some form of weather today.  The weather is something in common you both can discuss, and that is why you do it.

Us humans are designed to bond with each other through the “courtship of commonality.”  We look for ways that we are similar to each other.  The more similarities we find, the more we like each other.  Imagine if you found out that I grew up in the same town as you, went to the same college as you, and your best friend is my best friend too – let the love-fest begin. Commonality builds bonds.

Discussing the weather is the first dip of the toe into bonding.  So the next time someone asks you how the weather is in your part of town, be grateful they asked.  Then ask them who their best friend is.