The FroMLE Technique
Even though I have an Immutable Law, No Dicks Allowed, I still run into some opinionated, strong and occasionally obnoxious personalities. It can be a vendor or a customer. It can be a friend or a family member. And they all can be difficult to deal with, until I use the “FroMLE” technique.
FroMLE means From My Limited Experience. It is the phrase I use to change my thinking from negative to positive. Simply add the phrase (in your head) to every sentence you hear from that annoying, obnoxious, opinionated and strong person.
When Mr. Obnoxious says, “All women are bad project managers,” simply envision them also saying the words “from my limited experience,” and you may feel some pity for that ignorant lad.
When Ms. Annoying says “Everyone I meet is stupid,” add “from my limited experience,” and you will realize how sad it is that she doesn’t get out more.
Even For You
And when you, yourself say “There isn’t a single person in the world that can do as good of a job as me,” add the phrase “from my limited experience,” and you will start to realize how your own thoughts are limiting your success.
The FroMLE technique works every single time in dealing with annoying, obnoxious, ignorant, opinionated, strong personalities – even if they are your own. From my limited experience.
Any other tips for dealing with those annoying folks?
I have always used eye contact with true listening skills. they will say whatever it is they think, they might be right and they might be wrong..but it is just their opinion, not a fact. Even when I could find no common ground to agree, I try to see where they are coming from. I don’t have to like what they say or even like them. Being the “bigger” person isn’t a character flaw, it is a decision.